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About a month ago, I ended a three-year relationship with my fiance. I thought he was the one. I thought he would be the one to help me leave my pain and sorrow behind. I thought he would be the giver of love and joy for the rest of our lives.
I was wrong, and once again, I was betrayed, and this time the hurt was greater than anything I’ve experienced. All because his pride and ego are too important to him.
That’s when I discovered: In these past 3 years, I have lived my life the way he wanted me to. I like what he likes. I act the way he acts. I think the way he thinks. In short, I have completely replaced my own unique identity with a clone of the man I now loathe with all my heart and soul.
My friends all told me to find someone to help me get over my heartbreak faster. However, I no longer want to depend on a man, and I no longer want to have someone hand me happiness and joy on a silver platter. Those are things I need to discover myself. So until I rediscover my identity, personality, passion, and most importantly, my self-esteem, I have sworn off all men.
It has been 2 months since I made this committment. I am still in the process of searching for me, but I love every minute of it, and it feels GREAT to have power over my own self again!
Anonymous on August 12th 2008 in Alone
Shhh... said on 17 Aug 2008 at 5:34 am # Quote
Why are you heartbroken then? You’re happy now, and every second of the three years you spent “making the mistake of being with him” is worth the smile you wear now.
But I don’t believe in FINDING who you are, that’s not what life is about.
Life is about CREATING who want to be…
Sherika (JA) said on 26 Sep 2008 at 11:03 am # Quote
I absolutely admire ur article. Yours is the second best I’ve read. I find no fault in ANYTHING at all u said. That guy was in ur life…for u to realise that u DONT NEED a man to give u happiness!! I know for sure that over those 2months u’ve regained ur self-esteem and that is wat A LOT of females now-a-days seems to have lost!! I hope ur article inspires anyone else who reads it..
I wish u all the best and continue staying strong..and inspire other females out there.
Love