I’ll be dead soon
Posted by guy in Alone on Dec 30th, 2008 | 16 commentsI’m dying of a terminal illness, and will very likely be dead by next month. My family doesn’t know; I dread to think of the pain this will cause my mother and my daughter. I’m only 33.
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I’m 28 and in the same boat. I have 4 kids. 9 and under. I haven’t the heart to tell them,my family or my friends what’s going on.
You really should tell your family. Help them make arangements to help cope. How much do you think it will hurt your family if they find you dead a later find out you knew about it and did not tell them. There was a lady once i can not remember her name but, she made video tapes of herself talking to her daughter about things in life to give to her daughter. She set up a plan to help her husband, like telling him where all the house hold items are etc.
The husband and daughter found all this helpful and were glad that she had done all this. They knew she was going to die and it made everything easier for them to know she wanted the best for them.
I know you want whats best for your family but telling them is whats best. My mom may be dieing i dont know because she wont tell me anything about it, but right now my biggest fear is that i will come home and find her dead.
I wish she would tell me.
-lina
Oh my god, I don’t no if either of u believe in god but I’ll be praying for u both
I hope you both find peace before you leave and know that your loved ones will be taken care of. I’m sure you will be able to check in on them and help them if they ever need it. Really LIVE these last moments with them as much as possible, peace be with you!
I am 33, you need to document yourself for your child.
My brother died at thirty three, and we had about two weeks notice that he was dying. I, and I know our Mom, would have rather have known about his illness from the beginning. As it turned out, he kept us in the dark for the year and a half that he was sick. He wouldn’t come home, always had “something going on” that prevented us from seeing him as he lived a few hours away.
We would have much rather have had that time to care for him, rather than leaving that up to strangers in hospitals and his friends, who had their own problems to deal with.
Tell you mother at least. Please, for your sake as well as hers. Time is already short if you really have such little time left, but that time will give her and your family a chance to come to terms and be with you when you need them most.
Lastly, we’ll pray for you. We’ll pray that this isn’t your last bit of time on earth. We pray that you’ll receive comfort and peace, whenever your time here is done, in a month or forty years from now.
How wonderful it will be after you are gone for your loved ones, particularly your children, to be able to read a journal of your true emotions.
Tell them in it about your fears, your frustrations, your love, the good and the bad. They will understand.
Leave it for them to read after you are gone.
I am sorry to hear what you are going through. My mom found out she was terminal. She passed sooner than estimated. As hard asd it was, I treasure the memories of being with her. She knew she wasn’t alone. Please reconsider for you and your loved ones deserve mutual support.I said a prayer for you. May God be with you.
One more thing. Only God knows the exact time or hour. Illness may be evident, but you can still live your life to the fullest by inclusing your family in your time. PLEASE reach out to them. This is not your fault.
sometimes life isn’t fair. dont spend the remaining days alone and thinking about death. if you dont want to tell your family its ok. but dont make them feel that there is something wrong going on, because afterwards they will know why you was acting wierd and they might not forgive you.
can you please keep us up dated…
Leave as much of your story behind that you can. Give your family the chance to say goodbye. That is a gift you can give them. You need to be comforted by them, and they need the chance to love you.
Might as well stop commenting because if the story is true this person is sadly no longer with us
I was fourteen when my daddy died. He’d been ill for a couple of years without telling me. I hated him for it for a long time. Do something. Leave your medical file on your table. Anything. just don’t put your family through not knowing.
Is this guy dead yet?
Rest in peace.
Rip brother