RSSGah..
Wow.
What a convenient site.
Well, I’ve just started a year at a new school, and as usual I’m having no issues whatsoever making friends. But, my two best friends who I trust the most are at a different school. I haven’t seen them in a while, and I’m terrified of losing them.
I do have a really close friend at my new school, but I don’t feel that she’s the sort of person I’d tell important things…
So, to replace the contact I usually have with my best friends, I’ve begun writing on sites like Livejournal, Mibba, Quizilla etc. and building ‘no-strings-attached’ friendships with people I can relate to. I don’t know if this is a good thing or not, but I really don’t need any lectures on ‘internet safety’ or ‘the dangers of online predators’. Spare me the repetition.
I’m pretty sure it’s better than keeping everything bottled up, I guess. My parents are thinking of sending me to see a therapist, since I’ve been depressed. They recently found out I’ve been taking pain medication when I didn’t need it and they think it’s ‘unhealthy’ the amount of time I spend alone in my room.
mia on March 8th 2008 in Alone
Someone said on 08 Mar 2008 at 1:46 pm # Quote
i had the same thoughts like you before… i was wrong and took regret on my part…. meet new people…. little by little if you think it’s a dramatic change for you. This friend in your new school probbaly likes you to be her/his friend… give it a chance… who knows, she could be one of your best friends! I know how it is being apart with your best friends…. you need to stand up for yourself and meet new people! discover other’s values! personalities! there are so many out there to meet!!! It’s not kind of a bad thing. I have some online buddies too and I know you are a big girl to know the right and wrong in terms of that.
anon said on 08 Mar 2008 at 8:55 pm # Quote
In all honesty, I did the same thing when I was in school, spent a lot of time in my room alone listening to music that suited whatever mood happened to strike me. My drug was sleeping, sleeping for 16 hours a day, sometimes more if I could sneak out of class and sleep somewhere.
Being alone in your room is not unhealthy, but taking pain medication when you don’t need it, is. Those can become physically addicting, especially if they are opioids, and are even more dangerous if you suffer from depression.
It’s surprising the likeness you suffer; I had my best friend of 8 years that I went to school with and graduated with, and I moved to another town, and eventually another state (for that bad relationship) and pretty much fell out of contact with her for a few years. Then, I got myself together, and found her again, and it’s like we were never apart and it’s nice. So, sometimes you need to lose your friends for a while to find yourself and appreciate what you really have. If they are the good friends you say they are, they’ll understand and appreciate it. Because it’s good to stay friends forever, but it’s better to lose and refind them to better understand why you’re their friends in the first place.
And you know what? The fact that you are making online friends is actually a good thing. At least you’re talking to someone about how you’re feeling, and despite what others may think, interaction is interaction, be it online or otherwise. I am from a ridiculously small town, and after a week you pretty much know everyone here. My best luck has always been online with meeting people, most of which are gaming friends, blogging friends, or chat room buddies, and sometimes a few stand out from the crowd. And though I have issues, I consider my online experiences to be the most therapeutic of all. Anonymity can be the best cover to really express yourself fully.
But please, do consider getting treatment for the pain mediciation. I -truly- hope you are not physically addicted, and I would advise seeing a doctor about it, for the sake of your health, not principle.
see differently said on 09 Mar 2008 at 5:14 pm # Quote
feel better. you can do so much better.
Sherika (Jamaica) said on 26 Sep 2008 at 4:47 pm # Quote
anon’s article explains it all. I find NO fault with wat he/she explaind to u…its all good advice.
I, myself can relate..because my bestfriend moved away to another state and we still talk on the phone EVERYDAY..
I stay at home at the moment..spending most of my time in my room occupying my time with music or the internet (I hardly watch t.v).
I dont go out and make friends or anything because I feel just fine…especially that I talk to the one person I can tell ANY nad EVERYTHING (my bestfriend).
So..dont feel alone..jus try to occupy ur time interacting with online people…and that girl that is ur friend…it wouldnt hurt to spend more time with her..doing girls stuff so atleast eventually, when u least expect, in no time u girls would become close.