Alone
Posted by different in Alone on Aug 9th, 2008 | 5 commentsAll my life I’ve been shy. It didn’t bother me at first. But 3 years ago I changed schools and I couldn’t make friends. I am now 16. I tried to change. I let go of my insecurities a little but then I was faced with another problem. Even though now I could speak louder and clearer then before, I could give more specific answers then just “yes” or “no”, I found that it is hard for me to communicate with people. I just can’t think of what to say. Whenever my cellphone rings my hands begin to sweat, my voice shakes and I can’t think straight. I hate it. Every weekend, the people I sit with at lunch go out together. I wish they would ask me to go out too. I know they won’t reject me if I ask if I could come but I don’t want to feel like I’m intruding. I feel so alone and stupid because it’s something no one else has problems with. I wish someone could help me. I’ve been alone and insecure most of my life and I fear it might never change. I hate being alone.
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I was just like you, if not worse. But trust me when I till you this: You’ll be okay!! I suddenly start clicking when I reached my late 20s. I’m still very quiet, but now I’ve accepted it happily as it seems to be a desirable quality. But the pain of shyness is gone.
hey dudette me knows its funny but why don’t u join some social networking sites huh?? these things can really pump life into you, you know …. i mean even if u act silly still nobody knows u….heehaw.
hey lass, firstly, what you’re experiencing is common. I mean we all have been through this phase. Go for the real thing, like start playing sports that most of your mates play. Don’t just sit idle. Be a player. You’ve been shy and now you’re bearing the fruits for being shy. So change now, and in a while you’ll get some possible results. Don’t go for cyber pals cause they are imaginary and unreal. Go for the real thing. Start with getting up early and going to the near park for jogging. Things will get better inshAllah.
I go through this. I’m very shy…19 years old, & I have trouble making new friends because people mistake my quietness for being standoffish. I hate talking on the phone, I’ll only text. I feel alone a lot, but I feel like it’s my own fault, because I’m not outgoing enough. So I tend to make excuses to try to accept it…even though I’m annoyed that I don’t get invited to places & when I do I never go because I don’t like the social interaction.
I’m two years younger, and I’m shy too. The thing is, you’ve just got to try and ignore it. You’ll start to realise that people don’t really notice the things you think they do. I know that when you say something, you go over it in your head, wondering whether it’s the right thing, but people really don’t think about it. Just think: you’re not anything bad, so why should people think anything less of you for opening your mouth and saying what you think? And if they do, for one reason or another, do you really want to be friends with someone who cannot like you for who you are? I don’t know whether I’ll be shy for my whole life, or whether it will go away, so I’ll just have to be happy with who I am now, and not care what others think about me. I find this works, and I hope it helps you too!