7 thoughts on “Pain by Porn

  1. Porn can easily become an addiction. It is seductive, it is so accessible, and it fills the emptiness so easily. But it also steals your time, steals your relationships, steals your life, steals your soul. It leaves you empty and then demands you fill that emptiness with more porn. You lose all reason of what is acceptable.

    Yet with all the misery that it causes you, you still return to it again and again thinking it is exactly what you need, at least just this one more time.

    There is help. There are people who were in the same situation as you. But in a group of support, acceptance, and friendship they found their way back from the depths to a meaningful life and are stronger than ever. You can too. Just Google Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) or Sex And Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA). We’re waiting for you, friend.

  2. Me too, it sucks, never ending, tried to quit for 20years, even adter married had kids. I need to stick my head to my job and my kids, but my career sucks. It affect me round and round, but i never say quit trying, thats me.

  3. You aren’t alone, and the problem could be way more complicated to solve than you think. I used porn my whole post adolescent life, multiple times a day, despite being raised to believe it was terrible for me and everyone around me. I just couldn’t stop, not for long, no matter how hard I tried. I finally reached a point where life was unbearable, when I found an old article in Time magazine about a guy who built an internet community around quitting porn. I’d tried the religious way and it didn’t work, so I gave the humanist way a shot. It worked. For a while. I went 83 days, no porn or masturbation. Then I crashed, and went on a 60 day streak, crashed again. Then a 21 day streak, and I said “screw it all” and gave up because I still couldn’t seem to quit.

    Turns out, porn was a symptom of a deeper problem. I started therapy, and found I pressure myself beyond my limits, then constantly berate myself for not being good enough. I was using porn to get a quick dopamine rush, a brief respite from my unbearable situation, but added guilt, along with all the other side effects of porn (of which there are many), kept me in a continually deteriorating cycle. It has taken a lot of time and work, frustration and I’m not finished yet, but I don’t do porn anymore. Couldn’t tell you how long it’s been, just that I don’t feel like I need it or want it anymore.

    Try NoFap.com to get started, but also understand there is an underlying reason for why you keep going back to porn. You will be okay

  4. Sorry to hear this. Why not join Sex Anonymous meetings in your area. Just google it. If none exist where you live, please get into counseling so that you can get control of yourself and life. Good luck.

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