Pregnant

I am now almost 5 months pregnant and not really sure what to do……My Boyfriend lives 3 hours away we haven’t seen eachother since a fight almost 3 weeks ago when he threw all my clothes out of his house, broke some of my things, told me I overstayed my welcome….and then threw 15 dollars at me that i had given him a couple days before. He has not tried to see me or anything, just calls throught out the day thinking that that is enough….he is not envolved in any way, he says I bitch too much, I told him it was because I do not trust him and if he tried a little more things could get better…he is 26 and has never had any kids, i do not know if i should just change my number, and ignore him……..move on…or just wait until the baby gets here to see if he is going to quit acting like a child???? I can’t go through these feelings everyday of feeling like i have noone to share this with…some days are good becaue i bite my tongue and others are like today were all hes done is send me a stupid text message and i have not recieved any phone calls…..WHAT SHOULD I DO???

3 Comments »Anonymous on June 16th 2009 in: Confused

Funny now but not then

This happenend when I was 19 and it was all because of my stupid boyfriend who is now my husband of 5 years. We both worked at an over 50\’s community at the time and he was in charge of the recreation area. It included a pool, shuffle board, sauna and an inclosed recreation room with ping pong, pool table, card tables, vending machines and TV. One Friday night we were at a party and did a lot of drinking. We both were living with our parents at the time so he suggested we go into the recreation room since he had all the keys. It was late at night and closed so we covered the pool table with towels, got naked and had sex. We had done this two other times with no problems. I remember talking to him about getting dressed and going home but fell asleep naked on the pool table with him. The next thing I knew an elderly lady was shaking my shoulder to wake me up. I was flat on my back naked with my legs wide open and my right leg hanging over the side of the table. The first thing I saw was her and 8 or 10 of the men and a few women standing at the doorway looking at me. My first reaction was to scream and I jumped off the pool table right away not even remembering where my clothes were. I grabbed a towel off the table and covered myself the best I could and just ran histerical and crying to the ladies room. The lady was kind enough to bring my clothes to me. I had no idea what happened to my boyfriend/husband but later found out he got sick during the night and fell asleep in the mens room. Needless to say we both got fired but I found out that most of the men, about 20 or 30 of them, were in and out of the recreation room looking at me. This went on for more than an hour before the lady found out what they were doing and came in to wake me up. Somehow my parents found out about it and my father was especially mad at me. Both him and my mother knew people who lived there. Most of my family and friends also found out and I was teased about it for months and sometimes even now. My husband and I laugh about it now but for the longest time it was so humiliating I can’t even discribe how I felt. I avoided seeing people who either saw me or knew about it. Most of the men and women who saw me naked like that were 50 and older but 3 of my co workers also did. My father knows 5 of the men that saw me and one of them works at his office.

3 Comments »Joanie on June 15th 2009 in: Sex

i hate her

my closest friend tried to commit suicide, before she did she sent me a txt saying sorry and that she loves me…i called the ambo’s and she’s okay now…they got to her in time…but i cant stand to be near her or talk to her anymore. i love her but hate her because she had the guts to do what i’ve been trying to do since i was 13…her life is actually the closest to perfect u can get, but she doesnt know about my life, i always lie about it, she thinks my life is like hers, perfect…and she doesn’t know that i want to die.
she thinks i hate her for what she did and am disgusted by her.
the truth is:
i love her and envy that she actually could do it.

1 Comment »caitlin on June 15th 2009 in: Friends

Confessions of a luxory hotel representative…

Please note- It is not wise to be cruel to the hotel agent who checks you in.

I have worked at different hotels over the last 5 years while trying to make it through school and after dealing with some of the most tasteless attitudes from all sorts of clientele I would never choose to make it a career in hospitality. I merely buck up to the insults and deal with it but I have a warning message to those who are the travelers of the world.

Be nice to your hotel agent at check-in… most agents will not kiss your ass once you have displayed how much of a bitch or an asshole you can be… so if your wondering why you didn’t get the comp upgrade you so desired, check your attitude at reception and see if that will answer your question. I is either that or the agent is really sold out of the suites, but you will definately win more with a better attitude.

Personally I have delt with the most witty assholes and condescending bitches… these people constantly insult my intelligence on a daily basis and I just have to put up with it to keep my job. But seriously it is not acceptable people.

For example-Dont be a dick about what room you get at first if you can good with make small talk and nice conversation with out comming off like a perv… I can guarantee most clerks will be more than happy to comp your upgrade without mention. This is how you win without paying out the arm and the leg for it.

If you are more of the whiney complainer type we clerks are less likely to help you no matter how much of the company policy is telling us to kiss your ass… We do have access to what room you get and your room rate… to which no one can prove we did it on purpose; and beware if you are a return customer- so dont expect to get away with murder.

This is not that serious I am not a vengeful person. I just simply wont bend over backwards for ungratefule guests who are never satisfied and feel it necessary to be a constant bitch or asshole during their stay at any hotel I work at.

So do yourself a FAVOR all yea guests and hotel travelers…. treat the front desk staff well and it will definately be worth your while.

of course this is anonymous lol

1 Comment »Your infamous hotel agent on June 14th 2009 in: Work

Fooled

I pretend to be happy.
But I’m really not.
I pretend that I’m selfless, and I try to be.. but I’m not.
I fooled so many people. I’ve bottled up my REAL feelings inside. I don’t want people to know and I don’t want to burden them.
My dreams and goals are getting shattered one by one… from love to education. I don’t know what’s in the future for me anymore.

5 Comments »Anonymous on June 14th 2009 in: Confused

To Be….?

I am a 20-year-old undergraduate at a prestigious college. All my life I have only ever dreamed of doing something, ANYTHING, good for the world, but with one catch. I had to get the credit for it. Win-win, I figured. This messed up world gets a savior and I get validation.

I have always prided myself on my intellect and love of learning, and am a very good, very smart student, but now I feel constantly immobilized and terrified by the mundane pressures of day to day life and I have no idea why. Am I so insecure that just the prospect of applying for graduate school sends me into catatonia? Am I so selfish that the thought of living a non-descript life without glory or adventure makes me flirt with suicide?

The worst part is that even talking to a therapist or spiritual leader about this feels shameful — here I am, unworthy, lazy, worthless, taking up more of their valuable time with my insignificant woes. After all, there are rape victims and soldiers with PTSD they should be helping; people who’d actually make something of their lives. I used to dream of healing the world, of being President. Now I dream of being able to smile without lying. My, how pride cometh before the fall.

3 Comments »Frozen on June 13th 2009 in: Confused

Virgin

I am 20yr old about to be 21 this year and i never had a girl friend and never kissed anyone before. I feel left out because alot of people i know already had sex and most people alot younger then i am at least had a a boyfriend/girlfriend and i feel left out. i am so shy all the time and i feel like every girl only likes bad guys. i regret not doing anything in HS and JrHS

12 Comments »Anonymous on June 13th 2009 in: Regret

My secret.

I have an eating disorder, and I cant stop.
I know what everyone will tell me, eat you stupid bitch! Stop doing this to yourself! But I just cant, its an obsession. It consumes me. Its so hard to explain, and so hard to fight against. I want to stop, I try everyday. Ive tried almost everyday for the last year.
No one knows and no one will ever know but me.

3 Comments »Weakness on June 9th 2009 in: Alone

It happened twice

When I was about 13 years old my younger sister and I used to get naked and practice pashing each other and touching each other. It only happened twice but it haunts me every day. I am married now to a wonderful husband and my sister and I are really close but I am so afraid that I have hurt her and I know now how wrong it was at the time. I go to church every weekend and pray that God will forgive me every day. It makes me feel sick that it ever happened. I wish I could take it back.

8 Comments »Anonymous on June 4th 2009 in: Childhood

i know a secret.

One of my very closest friends also happens to be my ex-boyfriend. He’s in a relationship with a girl he loves a lot, even though he cheats on her.. with me.

But that isn\t my secret.

My secret is that I found his online dating profile. Looking for men to perform oral sex on and receive anal sex from. I will never tell anyone, and never tell him because it would humiliate him.

He has started being more open about these things with me, saying how he likes the way penises look, and commenting on how he would like a 3some with another guy, but has never come so far as to say he is actively pursuing it. I make a point of being very understanding and open when he tells me about stuff like this, I want him to talk to be about it. I want to know he just has the profile, or if anything has come of it.

I have absolutely nothing wrong with homosexuality or bisexuality, and have some close friends who are openly gay. But finding this out about him, knowing this, makes me sick. It makes me worry so much about him. He is so confused, about more than just his relationship. I want him to tell me but I know why he can’t. I wish I could talk to someone about this, but I know I can’t…

My secret is that I know his secret, but I can’t tell him and won’t tell anyone else and it’s eating away at me.

6 Comments »anonymous on June 3rd 2009 in: Confused

Incest & Rape

When I was seven years old, my Father molested and had sex with me. This continued for seven years, and only stopped because I moved out of the house. When I was younger I didnt understand what we were doing, and I was happy to be with my Father because this was the only time he was ever nice to me. Every other time he was cold and callous, but when we were together he was warm and comforting. He is trying to get me to move back into the house with him and my mother, but Im frightened to because I believe he has not changed, even though he has sworn to me he has. I want him to love me, but Im not sure if I can do what he wants anymore. Sometimes I think it would be so much simplier if I killed myself. I dont think my mother knows about my Father and I, and I hate myself for deciving her. I want to tell her, but Im afraid she will hate me for what Ive done. I want to tell someone, but Im worried my friends would despise me. I want to confront my Father about what he did to me, but the last time we argued, he raped me. I couldnt even go to the hospital because I was worried someone would find out. My Father is a very well known person in our community, and I dont want to destroy my familys good name. Im also scared that people would find out Im a gay male, as gay people are not treated well where I live. I just had to get this off my chest, maybe someday I can tell someone for real. Thanks for listening.

9 Comments »Scared and Confused on June 2nd 2009 in: Sex

not sure if im a lesbian

im 20 years old and ive been with guys but ive always been sexually attracted to girls. ive kissed girls (what young girl hasnt these days lol) but never done anything else. im not sure if i actually am gay/bi but want to find out.

7 Comments »Anonymous on June 1st 2009 in: Sex

Incapable of love?

All my life, I was looking for someone to love me for who I am; I dated so many idiots, but I loved them despite the fact that they abused me in one way or another. Now I am engaged after all these years, to the first guy who has ever been ANY kind of worthwhile, and now I am wondering if I’m doing the right thing by marrying him. People talk about “dying without being with that person”, and I’ve certainly felt that, but it was never reciprocated.

I fear I am making a huge mistake. That I really don’t love him, and I hate myself for even questioning myself. I am so scared….

7 Comments »Anonymous on June 1st 2009 in: Spouse

double life

I have been cheating on my spouse for almost 17 years with my girlfriend, her cousin- I have 2 children,now grown, with my wife and stayed with her for them as the love in our relationship left long ago-I have also been “dad ” to my girlfriends daughters, also grown, since they were small and I am the only father they have known-over the years,I split my time between the two families, but I have always favored my girlfriend and my daughters and I spend less time with my wife and kids and more with my girlfriend and my daughters.I have always felt that my girlfriend and I were meant to be together, and I need to finally make the break as my girlfriend wants me to finally divorce so we can get married..

12 Comments »anon on May 12th 2009 in: Spouse

I hate my friend

secretly hate my friend. She is perfect, well close to it. She has straight A’s, and always comes to school. She doesn’t have any problems with people, and is extremely hilarious. We get along fine but secretly I wish she’d just fail at something, once in here life.

10 Comments »Frenemy on May 11th 2009 in: Friends